From Uncommon Goods, a BBQ briefcase stocked with the tools you need. $83.50
The Big Green Egg is developing a cult following; pretty good for an ancient cooking device known as the kamado. Around $399 for the smallest version up to $4000 for the XXL. The Kamado Smoker and Grill Cookbook: Recipes and Techniques for the World's Best Barbecue by Chris Grove of BBQ blog Nibble Me This is the go-to guide.
What to drink with BBQ? You can't go wrong with beer, of course. If you're thinking wine, Andrew Dornenburg and Karen Page, authors of What to Drink with What You Eat, recommend German Rieslings (especially Spätlese), a fruity Shiraz or Zinfandel.